December is here and the holiday season isn’t just for shopping, it’s also the best time to express yourself and set goals, especially in Armenia. dating world. Since Black Friday, I’ve been talking to new and long-time dating clients preparing for the dating boom in January, and some popular dating misconceptions have come up in our conversations.
Let’s open some with a twist of holiday spirit.
1. “I can tell someone is ‘the one’ within the first 5 minutes of a date.”
False.
If love at first sight were the rule, I’d have far fewer success stories to share. Chemistry can take up to three dates, in fact. So don’t rush it.
2. “Men talk a lot on first dates.”
It is true.
Sorry, gentlemen. Experience says this often happens (I discuss this in my book Acts 2: 166 Winning Strategies for Dating Over 50) The good news. Second dates tend to balance things out.
3. “All good men are married.”
False.
Take heart ladies, there are so many amazing single men out there, change your mindset and keep looking.
4. “Everyone lies a little bit on their dating profile.”
It is true.
Let’s call it “decorating.” Whether it’s a slightly exaggerated gym habit or a polished travel tale, luckily, the data shows that most people are right about things like age. height and weight.
5. “Nobody ever replies to my messages online.”
False.
If you’re not getting responses, it’s probably your approach. Canned, impersonal messages don’t cut it. Personalize and engage!
6. “He hasn’t shared his feelings yet, that’s just his mysterious side.”
False.
Mysteriousness can be intriguing, but emotional unavailability is a red flag. If someone can’t share, ask yourself what’s holding them back.
7. “Talking about your ex on a first date is no big deal.”
False.
Yes Leave past conversations for later. First date is about present – establish contact and set the stage for a second date.
8. “Online dating is a full-time job.”
False.
If dating apps seem like work, you’re doing it wrong. A clear strategy and focused effort (less than two hours a week) make it manageable and even fun.
9. “Starting over is scary.”
It is true.
Re-entering the dating pool in your 50s, 60s or beyond can be intimidating, but confidence builds with practice.Four first dates and you’ll feel unstoppable.
10. “I will meet someone ‘organically’.”
False.
Your dream partner doesn’t magically appear at your door.More than 50 percent of couples have met online recently, so why not you?
So how did you score?
If some of the answers hit close to home, it’s time for a new perspective. Lisa, one of my clients, thought she would never find love again at age 68. Then she met Roger online and her life changed. Love is not in despair, it is in believing in possibilities.
Let’s talk.
What misconceptions do you have about dating?How have they affected your dating life? Are you ready to rewrite your dating history this coming year?What are you willing to do to fulfill your goals and find companionship and love?🎄❤️
